Wednesday, November 16, 2011

read & review: cutrone's "if you have to cry, go outside..."

Back this summer, I thought throwing book reviews into my routine of blog banter might be a substantial addition. Then again, I was going through a phase where I couldn't pick up a book without totally finishing it, so I had plenty of material to scour... right now, I'm a little slow in that regard. But I did finish Kelly Cutrone's debut book and surprisingly, I loved it. I tend to always find something to enjoy about every book I read, but I appreciate the ones that I don't expect a lot from, and then they wow me. This wasn't a life-changer by any means, but I really enjoyed it for several reasons:

  • If you ever watched "The Hills," you know she has a reputation for being a no-frills, bitch of a manager who doesn't take flak from anyone. You'll see this domineering characteristic spill out over the pages of her book too. It's refreshing in a sense, but a little too much at times too. Although she makes a great point--she probably wouldn't have gotten to where she is with a sit-back-and-watch mentality.
  • I think it's a must-read for anyone in the PR field. My first official career-esque job in PR wasn't a ton like what my college classes prepared me for... I was ready to hit the ground running and apply the talent and skills I'd honed in four years of college to the career I'd chosen--I wasn't adequately prepped for a year of making coffee and having other people take credit for my work (note: I understand there's a "pay your dues" mentality--but after some time, consideration, and much discussion with colleagues and professionals I respect, I've slowly realized that a lot of what I did, didn't necessarily fall under the "pay your dues" chart).
  • It's a great read for someone who's sort of in that 20's funk--someone who is searching for more definition in their current life stage, someone who wants to feel validated by their career.

She had a ton of really great quotes that I highlighted... that's another booknerdy trait of mine--if I stumble across a great line that really gnaws at my soul, or makes me laugh from my core, I flag it with a paper flag and highlight it with an obnoxiously bright color. There's lots of color splashed throughout this one now.

[page 6] "If you aren't hearing your inner voice, it could mean you're overburdened or not stimulated enough, or that you've learned to shut it off because the people around you have refused to engage it. Perhaps you've had a hardening of the arteries around your soul. I believe the choices we make in our lives and the people and places surrounding us increase the volume of our inner voice, decrease it, or annihilate it entirely."

[page 48] "After all, you can't truly be happy if you've never known pain. You can't truly feel joy if you've never felt heartbreak. You can't really know what it's like to be filled unless you've been empty. And here's the other thing: sometimes in life seasons don't come in order; instead of fall, winter, spring, summer, we get three winters in a row. But that doesn't mean spring won't come eventually."

[page 64] "We tend to spend our lives building a stable of partners in our crimes against ourselves: people to tell us we look thin when we're overeating, people to tell us we look gorgeous when we're spent, and people to tell us we're making sense when we're not. With friends like these, we're almost put off when people decide to be honest. But true friends love us no matter what and are willing to call us out."

[page 91] "I believe that the universe constantly rearranges itself to support your idea of reality. If you're always thinking, "life sucks, and I suck," you're definitely going to see a lot of dismal shit out there. On the other hand, if your idea of reality is that you're a privileged, elegant human being and every day you think, I am a privileged, elegant human being," then eventually you will become a privileged and elegant human being. It may take five minutes or it may take five years, but that will become your experience of yourself."

[page 144] "...we are programmed to be terribly afraid of rejection. Most of us grew up being supported and protected by our parents, and suddenly we're facing a harsher world in which we're overlooked in the bar, our boyfriends break up with us, and we're not getting jobs. Often the problem is not that parents didn't encourage their kids to dream, but that parents were so encouraging that those dreams became their children's expectations."

[page 167] "I insist on giving good phone. As a species, we cannot afford to live on e-mail or to save our intimate communication for only late nights and weekends... No two people can establish a high-quality personal or business relationship without actually talking to each other. My insistence on calling people on the phone all day has not only helped me form lasting relationships but is not an important part of my brand, and it has played no small part in my success."

I'd highly recommend it... which reminds me, I need to get back into my Goodreads account! Do you use Goodreads? What's the best book you've read lately?

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